What is a Marriage?
Marriage- a formal agreement between two people – the ceremony in which this agreement is made – the state of being married.
Wedding – a marriage ceremony.
Women and men are equal in law and in marriage.
“Love doesn’t just sit there, like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; remade all the time, made new” Ursula K Le Guin The Lathe of Heaven
What makes a marriage?
Love – chemistry, biology, hormones, culture, social conditioning, need, divine and genetic input woven throughout our being. A strong feeling of deep affection. Passion.
Comfort – help, kindness, relief, ease, consolation
Trust – a good marriage is based on trust as are all good human relationships
Intimacy – closeness – sex.
Time – all the years of the past, present and future.
Who is married?
Helpmates – supportive and critical partners.
Companions – those who travel together.
Lovers – people who look at each other
Different people – people who do not know each other.
All marriages are mixed
You can share the same pillow but not the same dreams.
“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages”. Friedrich Nietzsche
“To keep your marriage brimming with love in the wedding cup, whenever you’re wrong, admit it; whenever you’re right, shut up.” Ogden Nash
“A journey is like marriage. The certain way to be wrong is to think you control it.” John Steinbeck
What is essential for a couple are good friendships – those they each have and those they share with other people. Here’s a toast to our friends.
Families are complex and changing. Marriage makes individuals into families. Love, generosity, and kindness make them function.
Here’s a toast to our families.
The lovely, but ruined chateau in these photos is in our village on the banks of the Adour River. We live in a cottage nearby. Marianne took these photos.